Scratching the surface
Our society has become increasingly characterized by a victim mentality ... ... and this became even more painfully obvious to me after returning from living in Asia for 10 years. The cultural contrast in this respect could not be more stark. The most obvious place in our society that we see this are the endless frivolous lawsuits that take place every day. But it begins at an individual level and I have been thinking about what some of the causes of this are. I have concluded that one of the largest contributors to the victim mentality is popular psychology. It tends to view most personal problems as the result of the way we were treated by our parents when we grew up. We are simply victims that just need to look inwardly at self and our childhood and we can begin to solve our issues, as the prevailing wisdom goes. But may I suggest that this seems to be a VERY superficial way of looking at the nature of things.
Consider this: when you squeeze something, what is inside tends to come out. If man were by nature good, then when he was squeezed we would expect only good to come out. If he is by nature corrupt and wicked, then we would expect dirt to come out. As we know, the Scripture asserts that our life apart from God is a polluted well, so when that water is brought up to the surface we can only expect to find polluted water. No doubt there is good intermingled since we were created in God's image, but a little bit of pollution has poisioned whole well. This is why the excessive introspection of popular psychology can only point to symptoms but not the disease. Left to himself, man remains the same and will never, of himself, issue fresh water, so to speak.
If you doubt this logic, consider this: Jesus was squeezed from all sides, more than any of us will ever be, and yet, what came out was living water ... that which is true, beautiful and good. What happens to us on the outside does not make us who we are, it only helps reveal what is already there. So the solution is not excessive introspection or having a psychologist only tell you that you are the way you are because of some traumatic childhood experience. This will only lead to a victim mentality, a society that shirks responsibility and always looks for someone to blame. Sound familiar? This is where we live folks and it needs to be exposed for the fraudulent religion that it is. Don't buy into it but let your mind be transformed by the word of God.
The solution is to take the advice (or command, rather) of Jesus Christ to take ownership of our sin ... Confess it and abide in Him. We will never defeat the world, the flesh or the devil of our own fleshly powers. They are all stronger than us by nature. But in Christ we are impregnable against such things because he has already overcome them. As we learn to abide in Him rather than wallow in our selves while gazing at our own navels, then, in His presence, it exposes us for who we really are and there is a Hand to pull us out of the mire. We have no hope save in the mercy of Jesus Christ alone. Chrisitanity is not a moral improvement or behavior modification program. It is about taking off the old self and clothing oneself with Jesus Christ. Its about replacment, not self-help. Psychology cannot save you, nor can your weak will. Take hold of Christ and yield to His providence in all things. Drink at His well daily, and then, when you are squeezed, a well bubbling up to eternal life will spill out and overflow to those the Lord puts in your life.